That might be possibleIt is not a perfect book but then what book is It really isn t all that buddhist for example Also there are a few examples where the author clearly missed the point It is not enough to breathe in suffering and breathe out love and compassion Sometimes you need to get off your effing butt and tend to the wounded That being said it s a fast read any you might get some value out of it if you are willing to keep what is worth keeping and blow the rest awayOh the comfort The inexpressible comfort of feelingsafe with a personHaving neither to weigh thoughtsNor measure words but pouring themAll right out just as they are Chaff and grain together Certain that a faithful hand willTake and sift them Keep what is worth keeping and with the breath of kindnessBlow the rest away What an appropriate book at this point in my life After many failed romances and at the tender age of 22 I was starting to become a little cynical This book redirected me to a healthier and loving place a place where I learn to love and respect myself before getting involved with anyone else Yes the urge to feel loved and have romance in my life is still there but now I look at it with ifferent eyes now I ask myself what is this loneliness signaling Am I loving and nurturing myself fully right now I am learning albeit slowly how to soothe my own anxieties and tenderly love myself without resorting to Academic Capitalism and the New Economy Markets State and Higher Education dating It s a tough journey especially for someone admittedly has aating addiction but this book has surely helped a lot Kasl an incredibly fascinating woman begins with a little background on Buddhism and reminding the reader of the 4 noble truths suffering is inherent to life we create our suffering through attachments and Scalia V. Epstein demands that things beifferent than they are we can ease our suffering by ceasing our endless Material Alchemy demands and accepting the what is of life and the last truth which is through complete acceptance of the what is in life and recognizing the superficialesires we harbor we learn to live in peace and love With this in mind we can contemplate on how we push our agendas on the world and subseuently other people including and especially our love interests Admittedly I struggle with this constantly and it was very apparent in my most recent relationships so it Falling For A Boss definitely hit home and called for some self reflection In addition Kasliscusses how anxiety is inherent in most relationships because they resurrect the feelings of attachment we had with our mother or primary caregiver We were once completely merged with our mother and unconsciously we still Basics of successful agriculture in the tropics desire that feeling of complete and utter connection We want someone to take care of us soothe us comfort us But we are adults now Therein lies the problem She reminds us that this trap is easy to fall into especially when first starting a relationship Kasl is adamant about this fact that we need to be happy with ourselves and be okay with letting a relationship end if itoes Our ego tricks us into getting into a state of panic at the possibility of loss but if we relax and realize that this is just a moment in life and that people will always come and go and that we will continue to live we will be happier and appreciative of the learning experiences that come with each relationshipThroughout the book Kasl always mentions how the most important relationship is the one we have with ourselves and how if we learn to fully love and accept every aspect of ourselves we will be tremendously happy in or out of a relationship. Ight heart to the romantic journey Filled with uotations from Zen Sufi and other wisdom traditions and informed by the experiences of people from all walks of life here is a relationship book that will appeal to readers looking for than a Venus meets Mars solution to the complex affairs of the hear.
Despite a chic lit ish sounding title this is probably the most meaningful profound yet simple book I ve read on approaching relationships from a spiritual perspective not just buddhism as the author integrates sufism and uaker themes amongst others I read this book every few years usually around the time I think I m ready for another relationship Every time I Regenerating Agriculture: Policies and Practice for Sustainability and Self Reliance do I m reminded that the relationship I m really craving is with myself and the All That Is In other words this is a sweet little book about traveling the Path whether or not the Path takes you alongside someone else s Path If itoes there are a number of lovely little essays and tools that may help you avert the crazy pitfalls you generally hit in or out of relationship if not there s plenty of good comforting soul satisfying material to keep you happily moving forward on your own I attribute this book to the reason I met my husband Excellent principles on focusing on what you want and sending the right messages into the Universe One of my main criterion for reviewing a book is to assess how much it has taught me For that this book They Hear Me Crying Now! (The True Story of Child Abuse Continued) - Child Abuse True Stories deserves many than five stars iteserves one for each chapter This book clearly respects and honors love and it oes it through various mentally healthyspiritualpsychological lenses I cried many times reading it and I feel that it has changed me Sometimes I spend an entire ay remembering a chapter I cannot recommend this enough to both singles and nonsingles This book is very enjoyable and supremely helpful to everyone I ve known who s read it It was highly recommended to me by a good friend about two years ago I am about to read it again for the third time If you want to be open and honest with life and others able to love them by first loving all parts of yourself and live compassionately this book s for you I promise it will help you to release some of your fears false perceptions and worries It really is so good as to make you want to read it over an over again There is another one by Kasl many called If the Buddha Married but I am confident that this book is extremely practical and helpful to human beings male or female married or unmarried Enjoy Pass it on Okay so in all honestly I m really embarrassed to admit I read this book If there are two topics of public conversation that make me suirmy it s love and spirituality And god forbid someone see me standing anywhere near the self help section of a bookstore But hey a close trusted friend recommended that I read this book and I m really glad she BWWM (Interracial Romance BWWM African American Multicultural Romance) *1 (Interracial Romance BWWM African American Multicultural Romance) *1: Billionaires Secret Baby (BWWM Secret Baby Romance Contemporary Romance) did It s not particularly well written and I say this with utter seriousness the whimsical fontdesign choices really almost made me give up before I even started But I was curious I guess this is the part where I have to admit that I am newly in love and thatespite all the reasons to feel only so so about this book it was really great for critical self examination and honest reflection This book gave me the tools to o the kind of work I was trying to o by myself Reading this book and taking it to heart years ago would have saved me from a great Alien Zookeeper's Abduction deal of stress aggravation anxiety and wasted time but reading it now was a pleasant confirmation that I m on the right track in my ownevelopment as a person and romantic partner I found it to be a helpful catalyst for assessing my romantic situation honestly I would never presume to call myself a Buddhist however I found Buddhist philosophy to be a useful lens through which to view and evaluate love It was Tyral (Mated to the Alien, difficult for me. In this practical playful yet spiritual guide Charlotte Kasl author of the highly successful Finding Joy 101 Ways to Free Your Spirit and Dance with Life shows you what it would be like to have the ancient wisdom of the Buddha to guide you through theating process Kasl brings a compassionate unde.
To relate wholeheartedly to the concept of being on a spiritual path as well as some of the woo woo ideas about assessing compatibility astrological charts handwriting analysis but I took much from this book than I put into it so in that regard it is a success I would recommend this book to anyone in pursuit of lovecommitment including or rather ESPECIALLY those pursuing a higher Knocked Up by a Thug degree of self love and willing to engage withifficult uestions It s hard to face yourself full on and for me even harder to admit it but it s important work and this book was an accessible way to get there This book caught my eye on the shelf at an interesting time an intriguing character had just entered my life and then left just as uickly after entrancing me with his spirituality and shocking me with his African or American?: Black Identity and Political Activism in New York City, 1784-1861 dismissal andisappearance A truly inspiring conversation with this person led me to consider an approach to life that welcomes the present moment and opens myself to the possibilities around me for love in essence the message of If the Buddha DatedOne thing that made the material in Kasl s handbook hard to The Logic of Self-Destruction digest was the unclear structure and a lack of relatable examples She elaborates on the experiences of many couples and individuals but their realismoesn t truly resonate with the reader because the characters as it were are so far removed from us This was at least my opinion As such many of the examples were forgettable but the main takeaway for me had several levels 1 love will be ready for you when you are ready for it 2 refuting expectations in life is Around the Sacred Fire: Native Religious Activism in the Red Power Era difficult but necessary for fulfillment and 3 the principles of Buddhism and Sufism appeal to me very much spirituallyIf the Buddha Dated was an excellent gateway to spiritual thought for me and I think it has started meown a meaningful new path A practical and thoughtful The Alchemy of Opposites dialogue This book has somewhat hard to swallow advice that may change your life It is informed by various spiritual traditions and places the emphasis of relationships toward a uestioned approach What it is that you and your partner need What can youo to open yourself up to finding someone Who are you What have you not accepted in the past what Holy Crap The World is Ending The Anunnaki Chronicles does your intuition tell you about where you are right nowIt was also helpful for me even though my focus is on jobs and finding work Some exercise were fun too like writing a personal ad based on your who you really are ie Often late forgetful m looking for slender wf to make himself feel better about life haha so true for many men including myself Not something I try to be but something that society tells us will give us control or power or happinessIt also got you to write out what you really felt was your essence and how a partner could inform that and how you could come to terms with growing within those conditionsMostly th I think the most important lesson is that is one of the noble truths taught in Buddhism and other spiritual traditions is that attachment leads to suffering This book is a good way to gently guide us to exist with those emotions To stay with fear to stick with it When the student is ready the teacher will appear Thanks Kris for giving me this book all those years ago when I put it on the shelf unread There came a moment in my life where I needed to remember how to be authentically committed to a person without being attached to a specific result to be in the moment with my commitments but no expectations This book was sitting there on my shelf and gave me a little insight into how. Rstanding to the anxiety and uneasiness of new love and helps readersiscover their potential for vibrant human connection based on awareness kindness and honesty She approaches the ating process as a means for awakening reminding us that when we live by spiritual rules we bring curiosity and a
Charlotte Sophia Kasl PhD is a US psychologist and authorShe pioneered the 16 Steps for Discovery and Empowerment as an alternative to the Twelve step program for recovery from addiction compulsion or other behavioral problemsShe wrote several books based on some aspects of Sufi uaker and Buddhist spiritual beliefs and traditions