Out of this is that the two never should have gotten married in the first place Giving our spouse diaries of Hatch your inner most thoughts and understandably complaints aboutour partner is a terrible idea They poisoned their relationship with their private writing And lastly some wonders of modern medicine would have made all of their lives significantly better Xanax Zoloft Ibuprofen and some birth control literally save lives This book is a proof of it Sofia spent half of her life worrying someone was about to die and sometimes they did because of indigestion fever or diarrhea My deep dive into this miserable marriage isn t over Sodoms Sons yet I could only read this book in smaller doses Sofia s life is full of pain sorrow anguish fearor was it that bad Sofia herself said that she only writes in her diary when she s feeling sad lonely mad depressed etc There are large gaps of missing timewere these the good times of her life when she laughed and enjoyed it At the beginning of each diary is a short telling of what was going on in Russia and in Leo s life what he was writing thinking doing Yet in Sofia s diary these things are not often mentioned Her diary is full of children lessons darning teaching sewing household choreseveryday life What I found fascinating was what wasn t written These diaries have made me interested in reading biographies of both Leo and Sofia Sofia was a strong woman of her time I d like to find out about her Recommended but with a caution this is not easy reading It s sorrowful She writes Everyone asks But why should a worthless woman likeou need an intellectual artistic life To this I can only reply I don t know but eternally suppressing it to serve a genius is a great misfortune Though Sofia s frayed nerves and endless crying scenes got a bit tedious I really enjoyed getting to see her life and all its contradictions so closely As these diaries which span than half century demonstrate it s not our average woman who is responsible for darning Leo Tolstoy s socks as well as proofing the first draft of War and Peace Sophia and Lev Tolstoy surrounded by eight of their childrenSophia went to live at Tolstoy s estate of Yasnaya Polyana after her marriage She was eighteen he was thirty four The couple had thirteen children in all five didn t survive childhood I ve actually read the introduction and the first 20 pages or so of this book just grabbed it up when I saw it at the bookstoreI ve read enough to confirm my existing impression that Tolstoy the finest novelist of his age and place was a rotten person at least to live withLooking forward to seeing how Sonia Tolstaya struggled to reconcile her own desires with being a good wife to Tolstoy and a good mother to their nine surviving childrenOn EditI never finished this book No than 50 pages or so It was just too depressing These are Sofia s own diaries and they are filled with her depression unhappiness and even despair Tolstoy treated her terribly she lost children to death she took Tolstoy s dictation and copied clean copies of his manuscripts for him and raised and taught the children many children and ran the household and entertained the guests and managed the money and the budgetand Tolstoy gave her credit for none of it He was a genius on the page but a jerk in lifeI couldn t read any I have just finished The Wives which covers the same ground plus several writers and their wives but it was third person and much shorter I couldn t face several hundred pages of such unhappiness The wives of the other writers actually seemed much happier or at least content than Sofia Tolstoy Come to think of it none of them had to deal with constant childbearing as she did in addition to everything else Perhaps that helped them cope. Experience that these diaries are most valuable and moving They reveal a woman of tremendous vital energy and poetic sensibility who in the face of provocation and suffering continued to strive for the higher things in life and to remain indomitable.
Diaries offer the reader an insight into the predicament of women in the past I can t see many 21st century females putting up with that kind of behaviour but the pages are mainly filled with deep seated neurosis pain and anguish They are not an easy read so I would recommend a dipping in and out approach I ve a fondness for reading diaries this one is uite good Besides it s fun to say I m currently reading Tolstoy Sofia Tolstoy She was such an interesting person and her diaries convey this I absolutely loved this book The Diaries of Sofia Tolstoy are just that the personal diaries of the wife of Count Lev Nikolavevich Tolstoy or as most of us know him Leo Tolstoy This book is no walk in the park It s big and tedious but in between all of those days with mundane entries there are some pretty amazing ones and those are what make this book stand outWe get an inside look at what Tolstoy was like how it was to live with this genius how life in Russia was at this turbulent stage in that country s history and the struggle many women have with trying to be everything Because that is exactly what Sophia did everything She raised the children took care of the peasants kept track of the planting and harvesting payment of workers managed Tolstoy s publishing and printing did all of his copying made clothing for her familythis woman had no time to herself except for when she wrote in her diary It was no surprise that she felt suicidal Her husband hated that his copyrights weren t given to the people He hated that he lived in a large house with servants He raved about this and said he would be better off without all of it and preached this to his followers et he never did a thing to change any of it He constantly berated Sophia for being materialistic but never once thought of how else they would manage to feed their children they had 13 5 died in infancy or childhood And through all of this it seems that only she sees how contradictory and hypocritical his views were when one looked at how he lived She struggles most with how much of herself she s given to her family and how little of it she has left for herself She writes Everyone asks But why should a worthless woman like ou need an intellectual artistic life To this I can only reply I don t know but eternally suppressing it to serve a genius is a great misfortune The book I read was actually Love and Rebel but I couldn t find it on goodreads so The book is mostly a diary by Sofia Tolstaya for just one ear 1910 the ear Lev Tolstoy ran away from his estate and his wife and died several days later from pneumonia With his wife being banned from the room he was dying in Thus we follow the events which ked to this tragedy from the point of view of Tolstoy s wife labelled by some as the cause of his death the Xanthippian figure or worse However Love and Rebel is than just her diary which she started keeping after some events led her to believe that there is a conspiracy around her and she was not uite wrong by the way so she wanted the world to know the truth the way she wanted to present it However it is than just her diary so we shouldn give credit to the editor it is an elaborate compillation of several diaries including Tolstoy himself Tolstoy s daughetr sons secretary doctor and also some notes and letters which all together form a or less complete picture Which is not that flattering to Tolstoy s wife to be honest but even less flattering to Tolstoy himself She definitely deserves sympathy even though sometimes her constant nagging hysterics and self pity get on one s nerves I didn t read the whole thing I stopped at about the same time Sofia stopped being pregnant all the time and Lev started having his spiritual awakening What I got. Background of one of the most turbulent periods in her country’s history as old feudal Russia was transformed by three revolutions and three major international warsYet it is as Sofia Tolstoy’s own life story the study of one woman’s private.
Sophia Behrs was only 18 when she was introduced to the 34 ear old Count Leo Tolstoy in 1862 and by the September of the same Folk og røvere i Kardemomme by year they were married in Moscow On the eve of their wedding Leo Tolstoy asked his bride to be to read his diaries in which he describes his sexual relationships with serfs a love affair with oneoung woman in particular who bore him a child and his homosexual leanings The Pure Excitement young Sophia was both devastated and disgusted by what she had read The whole of my husband s past is so ghastly that I don t think I shall ever be able to accept it When he kisses me I am always thinking I am not the first woman he has loved It hurts me so much that my love for him the dearest thing in the world to me should not be enough for him From this undesirable beginning sprang a tortuous and tumultuous life together The Tolstoy s lived in Yasnaya Polyana Leo s 4000 acre estate and had 13 children in all eight of whom survived Sophia was to be in charge of the estate the children and Leo himself and it is through her diary that we gain an insight into how unhappy she was with her lot In 1863 after only aear of marriage she states I am to gratify his pleasure and nurse his child I am a piece of household furniture I am a woman I try to suppress all human feelings Their relationship was composed of two disparate characters Sophia wanted a spiritual side to their life together whilst Leo demanded sexual relations but refused to use birth control When Sophia did get pregnant he would become repulsed by her My pregnancy is to blame for everything I m in an unbearable state physically and mentally As far as Lyova is concerned I don t exist From her diary the reader soon discovers that Sophia did everything within their relationship around the estate and was even a literary agent for her husband She ensured copyright for his works and battled continuously with the Russian censors on his behalf She put in a tremendous amount of effort into advancing his writings and every evening she would copy out his untidy drafts with her neat handwriting returning them to Tolstoy the next day for him to revise once again which would lead to copying for her Sophia copied out War and Peace seven times But it is this aspect of their relationship that provides her with a sense of being wanted and needed by her husbandWhen he reached middle age Tolstoy turned away from writing toward shaping his own version of Christianity In the mid 1880s Leo became a religious guru and turned his back on fiction and on his wife He threatened to give away all his property and the copyright to his works to the Russian people Around this time Sophia s diary entries become fraught What I have predicted has come true my passionate husband has died and since he was never a friend to me how could he be one to me now This is not the life for me On many occasions throughout the diary the reader is privy to Sophia s longing to have the time to become a musician or artist hundreds of times I have felt my intellectual energy stir within me and all sorts of desires for education a love of music and the arts But this was not to be time and time again I have crushed and smothered these longings She does have music lessons and tries in a two and a half hour session to master the 8th Invention by Bach Her creative abilities were not only musical for some of Sophia s fascinating photographs of the Tolstoy family are reproduced hereThe Diaries of Sophia Tolstoy is a 450page tome that spanning 57 ears in the life of this remarkably intelligent and tolerant woman Her life was not an easy one for she loved her husband even though he tormented her and in the background to it was one of the most turbulent times in Russian history These private. After marrying Count Leo Tolstoy the renowned author of Anna Karenina and War and Peace Sofia Tolstoy kept a detailed diary until his death in 1910 Her life was not an easy one she idealized her husband but was tormented by him She lived against the.
Sophia Andreyevna Tolstaya née Behrs Russian Со́фья Андре́евна Толста́я sometimes Anglicised as Sophia Tolstoy was the wife of Russian novelist and thinker Leo Tolstoy Sophia was one of 3 daughters of physician Andrey Behrs and Liubov Alexandrovna BehrsSophia was first introduced to Leo Tolstoy in 1862 when she was 18 years old At 34 Tolstoy was 16 years her senior On 17 September 1